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Nine Key Traits to Achieve Real Relationships
from: "It's not Just Who You Know"
by Tommy Spaulding with Forward by Ken Blanchard
Authenticity
Humility
Empathy
Confidentiality
Vulnerability
Curiousity
Generosity
Humor
Gratitude
Someone meant well again when they wrote the above, but in reality, people are not always able to be this nice with others unless the relationship is short term. At some point in time, the real person surfaces, or resentment over one thing or another occurs, and the people, if in a relationship with each other for any length of time, whether it is s work relationship, a personal relationship, or a relationship where they see each other often (like in an A.A. meeting) - are bound to quarrel.
A strength building relationship is what the occurs. Is this 'domestic violence? People have written a lot about verbal domestic violence. Fighting with others is part of life. Maybe this strength building is what people forgot to mention before. The people involved can still like or love each other yet cause the other to change in a greater or lesser way.
This is another point of view. But, bullying is still bullying. Bullying is ganging up on a person who can't fight back - or intentionally seeking out targets who can't fight against 'everybody' - like the kid who was picked on because of one thing or another. Is bullying part of a love relationship? Not really. But if put in persective, it can help in large and small ways to reinforce a person's ego, make a person look at what is occurring, and then get other assistance if needed.
Something to think about, isn't it?
Signed,
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