Bullies, Crime, and Resiliency by Kimberly Koerber-Bauer-Koerber

 

I can relate to the below posts on Yahoo and poem from  a survivor about bullying.  As people get older, the abuse gets worse, and the only thing to do is to become more resiliant.  I can recall wearing socks to school as a kid with holes in them because I was broke and had no other socks to wear and getting beaten up by my mother who had 'issues' at the time.  The thing is that I discovered that the crooks, later in my life, were the perpetrators of bullying.  Crooks and Crime and Ethics, again.
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                                                                                  Regards,

                                                                               Kimberly! :)

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FROM:
http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/lookout/woman-bullied-teen-makes-friends-them-again-facebook-173135354.html

A woman who was bullied mercilessly in high school 25 years ago has gotten some closure from a class reunion page on Facebook.

Lynda Frederick, a graduate of Orange Glen High in Escondido, Calif., in 1987, posted a heartbreaking poem about her experience on her school's 25th class reunion page.

Excerpts:

that little girl who came to school with the clothes she wore the day before
instead of asking why.. you picked on her...
the little girl who had bruises and was dirty
instead of asking why.. you picked on her
that little girl was me...
that little girl had love in her heart to share with all but no one wanted it...
this WOMEN has grown up now
however the little girl inside still crys
because her childhood was shattered

The post resulted in an outpouring of support and regret from former classmates.
"This poem touched me so bad I could not sleep. I cried," Lisa Wallace told NBC San Diego. Wallace and many others contacted Frederick to apologize for those years. They've created a scholarship fund in her name and raised money to fly Frederick to the reunion, and she has agreed to go.
Frederick says she has forgiven her classmates.

Former classmate Kristi Malone remembers the bullying incidents but felt powerless to stop them. "I felt so bad for her. But never thinking in my head that I could stand up for her," she told NBC.

Frederick says she had a troubled home life and graduated a semester early, moving across the country to Seneca Falls, N.Y. She now has three children of her own, including a 14-year-old daughter who is now dealing with bullies at school.

"I tell her to look at the people and say, 'Listen,'" says Frederick. "'If you don't like what I'm wearing, if you don't like the way I look—don't look!'"

 

 

 

 

 

 

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    GW12 hrs ago

    Today, the idiot school administrators would have you arrested for defending yourself. And, they wonder why the problem is so prevalent.

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  HARRY • 18 hrs ago

  There was one guy from school who was bullied because he was small. People called him Josie instead of Joe. I remember seeing the picture in the paper of him receiving the Silver Star for bravery in action and the Purple Heart in Vietnam. I've often wondered how the a-holes who messed with him all the time felt when they saw it. Most of them had gotten college deferments or joined the National Guard and stayed home. I talked to him a couple of times after he returned. He went to college and became a high school teacher in another town.

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    Met Fan Lou18 hrs ago

    Joe the HERO won in the end-God Bless him and thanks for his service. I am a 'Nam vet too and to get the Silver Star he had to save his buddies' lives. Way to go Joe!

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    DeputyDawg17 hrs ago

    Thanks for your service, Met.

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    howard15 hrs ago

    @Met.Glad to see that I am not the only Vietnam vet on this board tonight.Welcome home brother.

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  Boppity • 19 hrs ago

  Everyone thinks bullies are victims themselves and must come from horribly tragic abusive homes, but the biggest bullies I knew were the rich, popular in-crowd kids. Sports jocks and cheerleaders and country club brats. The kind of kids the adults just LOVED were the crulest and most hurtful to outcasts and those who did not fit in.

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    Suzi18 hrs ago

    I agree. The bullies at my school were the rich popular in crowd kids. The teachers all loved them and would never believe they were bullies. In fact, there were students in the middle school who were outcasts and themselves bullied then in high school they became jocks and became bullies.

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    Mimi17 hrs ago

    And guess what? They never grow out of their delusion of superiority. They are the ones who, typically, end up as part of the 1% or at the least running some major corporation.

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    Boppity17 hrs ago

    I've always said it takes a real jerk to want to be a "leader".

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  hmmmmmmm • 18 hrs ago

  In HS i remember a boy being picked on and physicaly abused by others every day. He was a quiet, shy yet smart kid. I once stood up for him in gym. By graduation, I decided got to know him better. The last week of HS we actualy walked home together, his mom had asked me to stop in for a while, so I did. When I walked into his room, he had trophies and photos of himself in fighting national martial arts competitions. I may amazement, he was a championship 2nd degree black belt like his dad. Till today, I just cant understand why he held back on those cowards. I hear he now owns a few dozen martial arts franchizes and is a stunt guy for big time celebrities. Just something for all those bullies to eat.

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    Kathi18 hrs ago

    Awesome...what a great story....Love the fact that you stood up and befreinded him....great lesson to anyone who is on either side of the problem

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    Roze11 hrs ago

    This is a cool post...

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    hello n4 hrs ago

    martial artists are always taught to never fight back unless you really have to, that is why. :)

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  WP • 21 hrs ago

  Glad to see one class grow up and own up. I was bullied from 7th to 12th grades at a christian school no less. Bullies don't realize the hurt can last a life time. Forgiven? Yes. Forgotten is another story.

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  Mish • Charlotte, North Carolina • 20 hrs ago

  I was bullied. I use to wear the same blue jumpsuit to school everyday and my sneakers were worn thru... It's the price you pay when you end up on welfare because your mother decides she doesn't want someone to beat and cheat on her day in and day out. And then you think that maybe brighter days are ahead when your mom picks up double shifts so she can etch out a better way for you and your siblings... but all that comes of that is her continued absence and the opportunity for you to be molested because there's no one around to see. Yeah... I feel for this woman. I feel for anyone who has ever been bullied in any way, shape or form.

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  TimBrock • Denver, Colorado • 17 hrs ago

  Anmyone remember being mistreated by others in school. And then the teachers would just say "Ignore them!"

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  joanne • Tampa, Florida • 20 hrs ago

  Things you do to others will come back to haunt you someday.

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  BRYANN • Guatemala City, Guatemala • 20 hrs ago

  Unfortunately the mental scars never go away. You carry it forever.

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  sk • 1 day 2 hrs ago

  mean people suck

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  Whitney • 20 hrs ago

  You shouldn't make fun of someone's clothes or social awkwardness. I knew a boy from my High School who was made fun of by his peers. He was a poor boy from the projects who couldn't afford new clothes. He didn't get a car for his sixteenth birthday. All of his school supplies were second hand. And people teased him for not being able to afford the things they could. And I thought those people must have been the lowest creatures to ever walk the face of the Earth.

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  Kathy • 20 hrs ago

  I was bullied. Fat, red hair, turquoise glasses (my mother picked them, and she was one of my bullies through my life). I got over it. I'm 61 now.....still fat.....red hair has turned to gray, glasses are modest. If you bully me now, I'll laugh at you because you're the one that's pathetic, not me. Bullies are just insecure, unimportant people that need attention. Besides, we're all beautiful in God's eyes! (I can see the thumbs down now.....)

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  m • 20 hrs ago

  i was bullied by my teachers and other students. i'm half black/half white and was one of the only "minorities" in my school. my teachers told me i was a poor student and would never graduate. other students said i slept around and was pregnant and had std's. everyone (including peers) always chimmed in my race, calling me names and saying "you won't understand." all because i was "different." i never talked to anyone. the rumors wern't true but they still hurt. i dropped out after my sophomore year to become homeschooled. i just turned 17 and now i have a high school diploma and i'm going to college in august. i'm going back to my old school and showing it off to the teacher who said i have no hope in life and am nothing but a screw up ;]

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  yahoo user • 21 hrs ago

  I had a crap childhood, i was bullied, BUT I also bullied someone. I feel so bad about it now decades later. I wish i could apologize to the kid that I bullied but could never find him. So John Mons from Michigan, I'm truly sorry. :(

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  nicolina • 21 hrs ago

  Mean people usually produce little mean people

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  Carole Jones • 21 hrs ago

  Shame on anyone who bullies another....you don't know what they are going through, you don't know what goes on in their homes....try being a friend to someone who is being picked on...so sick and tired of hearing about kids bullying others...parents need to be on top of their kids about this kind of behavior...it is not acceptable!

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  Melanie • 21 hrs ago

  I think we the adults need to be the example. I see more bullying in these Comment Sections than I ever saw in all my years in school. The internet breeds ambiguity, and that gives normally nice people free license to be hateful and mean.

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  Kris • Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania • 21 hrs ago

  I bullied a mentally challenged boy in grade school. Kept pushing him down a small hill as he tried to climb up. It continued until he began to cry. All of a sudden it hit me how much of a terrible thing I was doing. It made me sick to my stomach. I helped him home and couldn't even sleep that night. I still think of that incident and it sickens me still today. I am 65. I have tried to teach my kids and now my grandkids to treat those less fortunate with respect. That one event changed my life, I believe for the better. I don't see how anyone who bullies someone weaker can find gratification in these acts.

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  backinfulldistrust • 21 hrs ago

  For the victims of bullying, there is always hope.
  And life after graduation does get better.
  
  For the predators, the only hope is repentance
  and atonement. And life after graduation for them
  is a downhill spiral.

  

Open Letter to The United States Department of Justice - USA Government

Hello!




There are a few problems out here in General George Busch's old area. One of his relatives was clergy at St. Mary's Episcopal Church here in High Point. The man retired. Busch had a large political family here. He ran as president of the United States. The problems have to do with negative development that spun around to Columbus, Ohio.



1. Skager (the Skags) Law firm on Hamilton Road may correlate with the rejects from The Limited Companies or a witch cult and drugs and with a drug cult on Hamilton Road in Columbus, Ohio on the east side.



2. Kimberly Powell's resume was stored on a computer here at West End Development across from Leslie's House. There is no Kimberly Powell to be seen. There are unknown war toys in the sky with circular lightning and etc.



3. There is a store right down the street called "Culler's Food Center": it is at the crossroads of English and Kennedy Streets. The sign in front of Cullers says "Oriental Food". A Hispanic man works there. Crooks look like they used this to get Great Britain into an intelligence game, took down and ripped of Kennedy law firms, and got the bank of China started - part of which was at The Motel One - 3190 E. Main Street, Columbus, Ohio, to racketeer people and keep the crack cocaine cult going there.



4. There is a canine couple, walking around together. One dog is part pit bull and is mostly black with a white chest. He has a lead attached to him. The white dog is larger and looks like a white German shepherd. They are friendly. They look like they were abandoned by their owner. No one in the area wants to take the dogs in. I bought and split a can of sardines between the two dogs at one point, and then at one point, they separated. The black dog followed us around and John fed him Ravioli in a can and macaroni and cheese in a can.



5. None of this helps me at all. I got thrown out of my house and was not able to get hired in any job but traced this intelligence problem back. Now, I am stuck in the shelter system, with no car, no money, and no job thanks to…..? Some of the people in the shelter want to get nasty with me for no apparent reason. I can’t get a job with the US government or any other job for ‘some reason. Crooks also wanted me to be a missing person as listed in my high school reunion booklet. I graduated from Medina High School in Medina, Ohio. All of this is definitely another “Born To Be Miserable” event series.



Regards,

Kimberly Koerber-Bauer-Koerber

kkimberly@ymail.com