There is a problem with “the relationship” when the man says that he does not want his family from another state or a supposed ex-wife about the engagement, but is supposed to be a playboy fixated on some non-existent woman or man or a correspondence relationship that does not exist instead. This has to do with what occurred in the state of Ohio in regard to developing a cult. The cult was developed so that people were in a string or group of people none of whom used their real names but the name of some victim times however many people were in the friends group. How clever! What a unique way to not have to take responsibility for things within one’s control range or realm. Psychiatrically, this is the same type of person.